Friday, 8 June 2012

The Therapeutic Power That Lies in Friendship and Togetherness.


A couple of days ago I fell ill. And I spent most of my time in bed for an entire week. My illness started off mildly, I felt shivery and would end up taking some hot beverage to stimulate my system. For 3 days, I stack to the same remedy not yielding to any advice of seeing a doctor. When it comes to injections and medicine, I am the worst fellow to recommend them to; because they are some of those things I have developed deep phobias towards. If I really have to take prescribed medication, then my condition must be pretty much awful. Well, that is a habit I am forever changing ever since the past fortnight when I was completely overpowered by an illness at a time when I needed good health the most. I had my end of semester exams then. I hadn’t cared enough to think what the next 2 days would turn out to be like had I not sought early medical attention. With symptoms cuing, I would earnestly mumble a prayer to at least sit my  two final papers before chewing blackout in the name of sickness!
Unfortunately, we don’t always have things work out our way. And so on a fateful Sunday afternoon…having felt nausea earlier that morning, I headed downtown to a saloon. My exam paper was scheduled the next day on Monday and later that afternoon I had an internship interview. While walking to town, I couldn’t help thinking more about how I would finish my exam paper and thereafter  have my interview….my day was going to be that simple. However, as soon as I got to the saloon things fell apart. The hairdresser could barely do my hair as I kept on asking for a break to do a nap. Things didn’t seem good at all. I had to call my girlfriend back at school to come and pick me up as I could barely get anywhere on my own. We headed straight to the clinic. Finally I relented to the call to see a doctor. I had severe fever and was diagnosed to be suffering from a bacterial infection and Malaria. I looked okay but deep inside felt teary and shattered. I got a couple of jabs and medication to take for the next week.
Monday morning…….I was down in bed. What! I couldn’t have my exam paper….and obviously there was no interview for me! I kept praying and wishing I had been to hospital a little earlier, but that wasn’t going to solve the issue at hand. My girlfriend had to make sure I received a letter from the medical services exempting me from sitting the remaining papers as I was too weak to sit up or stand.  Monday would have turned out to be one of my longest days on earth……but it never did. And that is why I am doing this blog post. Because I felt a lot better than I had anticipated……partly because of the good medical attention I received, but most importantly because of the power of friends.
I never knew how caring classmates could be until I fell ill. In life, there are people we never get to interact with, circumstances bring us together and when they do, we still stick as acquaintances to each other. We don’t share much in common except for the fact that we are perhaps classmates, or church-mates or stay in the same neighborhood….it is social events or gatherings that bring us together. We never care to know each other because after all, we don’t have things that bind us. Now that is human nature, you can’t blame yourself for heeding to it.
I had lots of my classmates pop in to my room to say a word of hi…and bring out their best of joke cracking to cheer me up. I was entertained to a whole afternoon of laughter especially the day after. I got to know another side of my classmates I never did. They were truly caring people. I am not much of a stay behind-get-to-know-my classmates’ kind of person which is something I need to work on.  I felt quite guilty seeing some faces in my room, I almost blamed my girlfriend for making the whole word think I was on a death bed!! Sometimes it feels as though people think we’re soon leaving them and therefore come to pay their last tributes just before we eventually disappear into thin air. But that wasn’t it. These people did more than just visit me, they shone a ray of hope in me, they gave me a therapy I needed to get me kicking for my interview day which had been pushed to Wednesday afternoon. By Tuesday night, except for loss of appetite and stubbornness swallowing medicine, I looked quite energetic and ready to face an interview panel.  I had laughed so much that my belly was aching. I didn’t want to laugh anymore but it was what I needed to restore the liveliness that lived in me. That Tuesday night as I drowned in my usual world of meditation just before sleeping, I said a little prayer to God; “Thank you God for giving me such wonderful classmates. I am not sure if I could ever thank them enough, and let them know just how much their presence and stories touched my heart and life. If it is within my might, I want to be there for somebody else and contribute towards there healing process.”
So one day when you are ill, don’t stick alone ailing in pain, invite lots of friends and friends of friends. You don’t even need to send out invites, making your friends aware of your condition is enough invite. You never know how quick you will get off that sickbed just by an hour of listening to friends and sharing together in fun and laughter.  The power of friendship is invaluable, no medicine can overpower it. And be careful to exercise an art of gratitude for the time spent with you.

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